I am flypaper for freaks Why cant I get a good guy? Only assholes are attracted to me
Those are the sentiments that tend to be discussed at most girls' night.
Ive spent most of my life wondering why I cant seem to find a good guy, and I think I finally figured it out: because like attracts like. Its the law of attraction literally.
You get back what you put out. So that means if youre only attracting assholes, then either thats what you want (and youre a masochist) or thats what you are, thus thats what you get.
The last guy I dated (whatever dating means) was a lot like me. We got each other and understood one anothers hectic lifestyles and off-the-wall sense of humor. I thought that was a good thing. Boy was I wrong.
Like Tucker Max said in his book Assholes Finish First, Show me a genuinely funny person without emotional issues and Ill introduce to you my stable of unicorn thoroughbreds ridden by leprechaun jockeys.
He has a point.
People tend to use humor to help them carry their emotional baggage being funny to mask and over-compensate their true feelings.
But his emotional baggage, though designer and easy to carry, was still baggage, and in turn he lied like a Persian rug on a rich mans floor, to hide his truth not only from me, but from himself. After I peeled off the first layer of his façade, I saw him for who he was an asshole.
Shit, does this mean Im an asshole, too? Like does attract like, after all.
I realized that I have in fact treated guys the way he treated me, like an option versus a priority. I've taken advantage of and lied to guys before, even cheated on one. And so I had made my bed and I was lying in it alone.
Karma is a bitch, and apparently so am I.
So if you want a good person who is going to treat you right, you have to be that good person. Not just to the person youre with, but everyone.
Dont lie to people and you wont be lied to. Dont use people and you wont be used. Dont deceive and you wont have to dance with deception. Dont cheat and you wont be cheated. Dont hate and you will have love. Simple as that.
Follow the golden rule and treat people the way you want to be treated, and youll be golden!