After one particular date-gone-bad, editor/blogger Rachel Machacek decided to embark on a dating investigation. This was an alternative to hunkering down in her apartment with her feline friend (a pet cat, who Machacek - an introvert - frequently spent quiet nights with in the privacy of her own home).
The question she hoped to find an answer to: "What happens when you use all the resources you possibly can to meet the opposite sex? Are chemistry and love inevitable?" The investigation and its findings - I'm not telling - can be found in Machacek's book The Science of Single: One Woman's Grand Experiment In Modern Dating, Creating Chemistry, and Finding Love. Check out a brief interview with Machacek - who will be visiting Park Road Books tomorrow (Wed., Jan. 12) at 7 p.m. to sign and discuss her book - below.
Creative Loafing: I was surprised to see that you included Charlotte for your "Dating in Other Cities" chapter. What was your connection with Charlotte?
Rachel Machacek: I have a friend who lives there. I was looking for places where I had a friend who I could stay with. I also wanted some geographic diversity, so that was my Southern city. Not a whole lot of science behind that.
Were you surprised that you learned more about yourself - rather than just dating - by the end of the book?
Yeah, sometimes I wonder if I would have embarked on this had I known how difficult it would be personally. It did force me to analyze a lot of things. When you’re dating there is a lot of emotions involved and there’s a lot of expectations and anxiety about who you should be looking for. I did a lot of reworking of myself in the process. I was not expecting that at all. I thought my main problem was that I have a hard time meeting people and that I just needed to figure out how to do that.
What’s you biggest piece of dating advice?
It’s pretty general. I think it’s being open to all the possibilities that come with dating. I think a lot of people are looking to start dating again or fall in love or get married, but then they don’t really want to do anything to make that happen. It’s really important to be proactive, because no one else is going to do it for you obviously. You have to look at all the different ways of meeting people. For a long time I was sort of just waiting for it to happen. Then, I realized that you have to take charge and that you can meet people online and at singles events or have your friends set you up. If you’re open to the possibilities you increase your chances of going out with people eventually. Half the battle is just getting to the date.
For more information on Rachel Machacek, visit her Website http://scienceofsingle.com/.