Authors Steve Harvey and Tucker Max come from very different view points in their writing, yet they both make the exact same point in their respective books, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man and Assholes Finish First.
Men will give women as much respect as they demand they be given. If they care about the woman, they will meet those demands. If they dont, they wont. Simple as that.
"Men respect standards get some!" Steve Harvey
"Ladies, let me give you some advice. You can throw all your stupid fucking chick-lit, self-help, why-doesn't-he-love-me books out, because this is all you need to know: Men will treat you the way you let them. There is no such thing as 'deserving' respect; you get what you demand from people. If you demand respect, he will either respect you or he won't associate with you. It really is that simple." Tucker Max (I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell)
So, be demanding! If he doesn't meet the simple demands of showing you respect, then you should be more demanding for yourself and show yourself the respect of finding someone who will.
Respect shouldn't be something you have to fight for. You should treat people the way you want to be treated, but more importantly, make sure you're treated the way you want to be treated.