I am a 24-year-old straight guy who recently broke up with my girlfriend of more than four years. One of the reasons we broke up was a general lack of sexually compatibility. She had a particular aversion to oral sex — both giving and receiving. I didn't get a blowjob the whole time we were together. Which brings me to why I am writing: One of my closest friends, "Sam," is a gay guy. Shortly after breaking up with my girlfriend, I was discussing my lack of oral sex with Sam and he said he'd be willing to "help me out." I agreed, and Sam gave me an earth-shattering blowjob. I was glad to get some and had no hang-ups about a guy sucking me. Since then, Sam has blown me three more times. My problem is I am starting to feel guilty and worry I am using Sam. He's a very good buddy, and I'm concerned this lopsided sexual arrangement might be bad for our friendship. What should I do?
-Totally Have Reservations Over Advantage Taking
Only one person knows how Sam feels about this "lopsided sexual arrangement," THROAT, and it isn't me -- it's Sam.
And that's why I wrote you back, THROAT, and asked you for Sam's contact information. Since you were clearly too afraid to ask Sam yourself, I offered to ask Sam on your behalf. You sent me Sam's contact info, and a few minutes later I was chatting with Sam.
"Yes, I have been sucking my straight friend's cock," Sam said to me. "And I am flattered he told you I was good at it. That's an ego booster!"
Sam, like THROAT, is 24 years old. He grew up on the East Coast and met THROAT early in his first year at college. Sam came out at the end of his freshman year, to THROAT and his other friends, and he now lives in a big city where he works in marketing when he isn't sucking off THROAT.
"I didn't know until after he broke up with his girlfriend that he hadn't gotten a blowjob the whole time they were together — four years!" Sam said. "When I told him I'd be happy to help him out, I was joking. I swear I wasn't making a pass at my straight friend! But there was this long pause, and then he got serious and said he'd be into it. I wondered for a minute if it would be weird for me to blow my friend, and there was definitely a bit of convincing each other that we were serious. When he started taking his clothes off, I thought, 'So this is going to happen.' I have sucked him off four more times since then."
So does this lopsided sexual arrangement — blowing a straight boy who's never going to blow him — bother Sam?
"I suppose it is a 'lopsided sexual arrangement,'" said Sam. "But I don't mind. I really like sucking dick and I'm really enjoying sucking his dick. He has a really nice dick! And from my perspective, we're both having fun. And, yes, I've jacked off thinking about it after each time I sucked him. I know — now — that he thinks it is a bit unfair to me. But I don't feel that way at all."
So there is something in it for Sam. You get the blowjobs, THROAT, and Sam gets the spank-bankable memories.
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