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I went to Craigslist to look at the kinky shit people are into. And I found a picture of my sister. Her eyes are blurred out, but one pic is of her nude and one is of her giving head, and there's a tattoo that's unique to her and clearly visible. I'm 99 percent sure it's her. The ad was from her boyfriend, looking for a "horsecock" to stretch her pussy while he sits in the next room. It's her business, but it's a mindfuck. I half want to call her out, shame her out of it. She just turned 22.

Sister Pics Dilemma

Your sister is an adult, SPD, and adults are free to post what they like to CL, and adult females are free to stick whatever they like — mancock, horsecock, whatevercock — in their pussies. It's hypocritical of you to enjoy the perversity on display at CL and then clutch your pearls in horror when you realize that someone you love — gasp! — is just as pervy as you are. So you're not going to call your sister out or shame her.

But you are going to say something to her.

There's a chance that your sister isn't aware that her boyfriend is posting her pictures to CL. Horsecocks, stretching pussies, the GF getting it on while he sits in the next room — that's all standard-issue cuckold fantasy stuff, SPD. There are women out there who are into cuckolding, of course, and there are women who've given their partners the OK to use their pictures in online personal ads seeking thirds for cuckold scenarios. However ...

Lots of men with cuckold fantasies have posted pics of their actual wives and girlfriends to sites like CL without the consent of their actual wives and girlfriends. These guys don't see — or refuse to see — the potential harm in rubbing one out while fantasizing about the responses they've received from men who want to fuck their wives/girlfriends. The harm comes, of course, when the wife or girlfriend is recognized by a sibling, a co-worker, or an employer.

On the off chance that your sister's BF is posting private pics to CL without your sister's OK, SPD, you need to say something to her. She needs to know those pics are out there if she doesn't already know it, and if she does know they're out there, she needs to know that she can be recognized.

Your sister doesn't need to be called out, and she doesn't need to be shamed. What she needs is a heads-up from a concerned brother. Give her that, SPD, then butt the fuck out.

I'm a 19-year-old heterosexual female. When I get a boyfriend, I get so nervous that I get physically sick. It makes dating very stressful and it feels like I can't have a normal relationship because I have to think about not throwing up when I really just want to enjoy his company. I feel particularly sick when things start to heat up with a boy. Now I try to stay out of relationships because I don't think anyone will want to deal with this problem. How can I help condition my way out of it? Should I see another shrink?

Nervous In Candlelight

Yes, NIC, see a shrink — and a pot dealer/medical marijuana provider.

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