He and I are working through our own karma, obviously. I told my daughter that now that she's grown, I have the right to live my own life. She still lives at home and makes known her displeasure when she comes home, and he's here by slamming doors and not acknowledging him directly.
So while I get the chance to do things better with the love of my life now that he's returned, I am worried about what this is doing to the karma I have with my daughter. Suggestions for cleansing are appreciated.-- Reunion City Blues
Given the nasty breakup that happened when your daughter was an adolescent, you have to respect her reluctance to welcome Mr. Ex back into both of your lives. She's reverting back to angry child mode. Does that excuse her bitchy behavior? Absolutely not. Your challenge is to engage her not as parent-child, but as two adults who share the same living space. Let her know that if she doesn't approve of your current beau, she should go get a place of her own -- or at least stop acting like a brat. On the other hand, perhaps your daughter's disdain should make you reconsider why it is you want to rekindle this romance.
Dear Karma Cleanser:I've recently been having dreams about women while I am with my man. I can't stop it -- it's like every time I see a woman, I get sexually aroused. I feel like I'm cheating. What should I do?-- Lost and Horny
Jimmy Carter found himself in a minor P.R. flap in 1976 when he admitted to Playboy that he had often "lusted in his heart." Despite the fallout, you should follow the Peanut President's example and confess your secret crushes. Sure, it might cost you the relationship. But hopefully -- and more likely -- he'll react with compassion, even curiosity.
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