I'm a 24-year-old male, married three years, monogamous. My wife and I are religious and were both virgins when we got married. I'm sexually frustrated with two things. (1) How can I get her to give me oral sex? (She has never given and I have never received oral sex. I regularly give her oral sex.) She is afraid to try it, saying she's not ready yet. She is a germophobe, but I think she believes fellatio is done only in porn. (2) I feel like I'm always giving and never receiving any type of affection: massages, kisses, caresses, you name it. It's like having sex with a sex doll — no reciprocation. How do I broaden our sex life without making her feel like we're in a porno?
If you don't already have children — you don't mention kids — please don't have any, SF, at least not with your first wife.
You're a religious person, SF, a lifestyle choice I don't fully understand. But you're also a sexual person, and that I do understand. And if you want a lifelong, sexually exclusive, and sexually fulfilling relationship, then you must prioritize sexual compatibility during your search for the second Mrs. SF. Because your next marriage is likelier to survive for the long haul if you're partnered with someone who is attracted to you physically and is aroused — roughly speaking — by the same sex acts, positions and fantasies you are.
In other words: Don't marry someone and hope she likes sucking your dick. You tried that, and it didn't work. Find someone who likes sucking your dick and marry her.
I'm a straight woman in my early 30s, and I just don't like receiving oral sex. I love giving blowjobs and can orgasm from PIV sex, but I seem to be one of the few women who don't enjoy guys going down on me. I'm not uncomfortable with it, but it doesn't get me off. I also get wet easily, so it's not like I need it as foreplay. As I've gotten older, and the guys I sleep with have gotten older, it seems like most want to spend a great deal of time down there. I've tried being up front about not liking it in general, but guys either get offended or double down and do it more because they assume I've never been with a guy who "could do it right." Any ideas on how to handle this?
Needs Oral Preference Explainer
The observation you make regarding older straight guys — older straight guys are more enthusiastic about going down on women — is something I've heard from other female friends. They couldn't get guys to go down on them in their 20s, and they can't get guys in their 30s and 40s to stop going down on them. (SF, above, is clearly an outlier.) The obvious solution to your dilemma, NOPE: Only fuck guys in their 20s.
Fan from Sweden here! Question: My fetish has no name. It is a "worshipping" fetish, for want of a better term, where I am the one being worshipped. Not by one man, but all men of the earth. The worshipping itself, while sexual, is not bound to my body parts. It would be great to have this named.
Lack Of Vocabulary Enervates My Experiences
A year ago, I would've diagnosed you with "caligulaphilia," after the Roman emperor Caligula, who considered himself a living god, and -philia, the go-to suffix meaning "abnormal appetite or liking for." But these days, I'd say you were suffering from a bad case of "trumpophilia."
I'm a 24-year-old female who met my 26-year-old boyfriend five months ago through Fetlife. We do not share the same fetish, but we have other overlapping interests and he is lovely, smart and funny. He has a diaper and incontinence fetish. Not my jam, but I'm GGG. The issue: He can get off only in the missionary position, with a diaper under us, and with incontinence dirty talk. And it's only very recently that we've been able to have penetrative sex — since he was used to getting off with his hand and a diaper. I do not mind getting him off this way sometimes, but this does absolutely nada for me and it's the only way he gets off. He's otherwise an amazing person, but I'm getting frustrated. We've talked about how my needs aren't being met, and he claims he's done standard vanilla before and satisfied his partners. I've yet to experience it myself, however, and I'd really like to be able to enjoy some vanilla sex — let alone my kinks! — with him!
Please, I'm Sexually Saddened
Your lovely, smart boyfriend is a lousy, selfish lay, PISS, and you two aren't sexually compatible. DTMFA.