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I'm wondering whether you have any thoughts on the male tendency when sharing "naughty" photos to go straight for a close-up shot of the penis. Representative Anthony Weiner's tweeting disaster has brought to mind a number of recent cases where high-profile men — such as Kanye West and Brett Favre — sent other women similar shots in an apparent attempt to seduce them. However, the response I've heard from women to such offerings can be summed up as "Ew, yuck!"

Do you have any insight on why some men think this sort of overture would work?

Totally Confused Female

Some men think this sort of overture works, TCF, because sometimes it works. The cock-shot overture doesn't work on most women, but the sort of guys who send cock shots aren't interested in most women. They're interested in the sort of women who this sort of overture works on. And the sort of men who think only with their photogenic dicks — and not all men are that sort — figure the quickest way to determine if a woman is that sort of woman is to send the cock shot.

Despite a unanimous "Ew, yuck!" from your friends, TCF, there are women out there who do respond positively. One of the women you talked to about cock shots may have thought, "Well, it depends on the guy," but told you, "Ew, yuck!" because it was clear from the "Ew, yuck!" look on your face that "Ew, yuck!" was what you wanted to hear.

Gentlemen: The existence of a handful of women who welcome cock shots does not give you license to send cock shots to all women. They are for women who have expressed a clear and unambiguous interest in receiving cock shots.

I just had sex with a street hooker. After cleaning her hands with alcohol-based lotion, she jerked me off. Then when I came, she rubbed the head of my penis all over her cheeks. When we were cleaning up, I saw she had something on her face. She said she had been injured in a fight with a screwdriver some days ago, and although there was no blood on this "sore," she had removed a crust from it earlier on, before meeting me. This sore was not open, so there was no visible blood, but it was somewhat raw. My question is, what risk of STIs is there? Herpes? Hepatitis? AIDS?

Can't Relax Unsafe-Sex Tension

You had me at "fight with a screwdriver," CRUST; there was really no need to include that detail about the crust.

The odds that you contracted a sexually transmitted infection from your sex worker are very small. Unless the head of your cock had been reduced to a raw and bloody pulp by that handjob, and unless there was blood seeping out of her sore, it's unlikely that her blood got into your bloodstream and, therefore, highly unlikely that you contracted anything more serious than a desire to inspect future hires for puncture wounds. If anyone was at risk in the situation you described in such colorful detail, CRUST, it was her, the sex worker who foolishly rubbed your semen into an open sore.

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