Fancy cars, big house, lazy days lounging around the pool, expensive clothes, a nanny for the rugrats, a chef, and a significant other that says: "Oh quit your job. You don't have to work, I got you.
Blink. Blink. Blink.
Let me give you your weekly dose of reality. Its 2009, and if all your limbs are working and the industry you work in hasnt been slapped silly by the recession, get your ass out and do the damn thing and get your own ish.
Being independent is what's in not trying to get your gold-dig on.
Someone once told me that it's better to marry for money rather than love.
Silly me. I still believe in the theory that boy meets girl, boy and girl fall in love. I guess now it's: boy meets girl, one uses the other for money and all is well in the land of fairy tales.
It's amazing to me how we've gotten away from seeking a fulfilling relationship to go after someone with the three Bs the Benz, the Bling, and the Benjamins.
Whatever happened to getting to know someone despite what's in his or her bank account?
For example, as soon as people found out that I appeared on a reality show, my stock went up. Mofos that I had forgotten about, written off or even told to kick rocks were coming out the woodwork thinking they were going to be able to get money out of me. Jokes on them because too bad they don't know that not all reality shows pay the big bucks (but that's a whole 'nother blog).
Or what about the man that's using his God given talents and pursuing his dreams and just so happens to be able to make stacks of money doing it?
He gets put on that list of a gold diggers "dream team." Not one time does the gold digger take into consideration the type of man this is.
"What you mean Meik?"
Well, first off (if the research was not done beforehand) you might just find out he could be crazy as hell, likes wearing Scooby Doo under roo's or he could simply be a good guy.
These days, its sad, but it seems that no one takes the time to get to know each other.
Instead it becomes a Destiny's Child remake of "Bills, Bills, Bills."
Here's a shocker for those that are trying to Anna Nicole Smith someone:
Relationships are all about give and take. If you're blessed enough to find a baller, then kudos to you! But, can you honestly sit back and say you'd still be boo'd up with that person if he was the average Joe making a salary of $25,000 or less?
If the answer is resounding "Oh Hell to the Naw!" Then allow me to pass you my pink mirror so you can look yourself in the face and say, " I just might be a gold digger."
Lesson Learned: Try to look at the person as a whole instead of how you can benefit from how much cheddar is in the bank. I'm sure you've heard the old saying, "money can't buy you love. Now take that to the bank.