The other day, I was sitting in my favorite restaurant when I heard an interesting conversation.
Two ladies were hunkered over a table talking about one of the girl's "relationship."
Girl 1: "Have you and Ron made up yet?"
Girl 2: "Yes, he came over last night, well early this morning with a rose and he said he was sorry."
Girl 1: "Did he explain why a female answered his cell phone? I mean, that's his private phone so something must have been going on?"
Girl 2: "It was his cousin or something. She was really close to his wife and she doesn't like him seeing other people."
Girl 1: "He was married?"
Girl 2 nods. "He said that relationship is over and when he get's his money together he's going to file for a divorce. He lives with his cousin and her husband."
Girl 1 takes a sip from her glass and leans back in her chair. "So, he's married? Are you like his mistress?"
Girl 2 laughs nervously. "He's separated."
Girl 1 shakes her head. "You're crazy. Until the divorce papers are signed he's married and you are the other woman."
Girl 2 looks visibly shaken and before I can hear the rest of the conversation, my waiter shows up to tell me the specials. Damn.
Being the other woman somteimes gives a woman a slight sense of power. She thinks that she's giving the man something he can't get from anywhere else.
Often, she's only short changing herself because it is cheaper to stay married and cheat than to get a divorce and start a new relationship. And if said cheater decides to leave his woman and become your man, how long do you think it will be before he's creeping out on you?
But why do men cheat? Some say it's biology, others say it's because women outnumber men. I say it's because women allow men to behave badly and forgive them their trespasses.
You can't change a cheater, and as long as some woman is willing to let him play, he's going to.
The other woman may get branded with a scarlet letter and called all kinds of sluts and whores, but in the end, it's the man who made a commitment to his woman. Shouldn't he be held to a higher standard?
And you don't even have to prove that your spouse was having sex with the other person. I bet Jennifer Aniston wishes she'd married Brad Pitt in Charlotte.